Finding the Right Woman
They say a good woman is hard to find. But the key to finding a perfect match is knowing what you want in a potential partner. It starts with defining exactly what you want from a relationship. This is very important because you need to set boundaries in dating. For instance, if you are concerned with family life and children, it would be wise for you to find someone who shares your values and goals. This means only dating someone who has similar interests or values as yourself. In this article, we delve into how to find the right woman for the kind of relationship you want.
#1: Decide What Kind of Relationship you Want.
What kind of relationship are you looking for? Do you want to be married with kids? Or are you the type of person who doesn’t want any children in the picture? Would you prefer to keep single and “date around” with as many women as you can practically handle? Or do you want to zero in on the right person and settle down immediately?
As much as you might try, you can’t have it all. Pick the kind of relationship you want and stick to it. If your “ideal kind of relationship” changes later, you can change it. But you can’t change it unless you choose it now.
#2: What Type of Woman Do You Want?
To be able to list down all the qualities your ideal woman must possess, you will need to fold a sheet of paper lengthwise. On the left, you will find all the qualities your ideal woman must not possess. Put as many qualities as you can in each column and be as specific as possible. Describe her skin color, accent, intelligence, body type, beliefs, political slant, etc. Write everything you know about her.
#3: Narrow Down
There is a lot to enjoy in this step. Make sure you take note of the 10 most important “must-have” qualities and the 10 biggest “deal-breaker” qualities of the women you want. On each list, prioritize it from one to ten, with number one being the most important must-have, whereas number ten being the least important.
Then use the points you’ve narrowed down to write a love letter to her. You will gain a deeper appreciation for your ideal woman as you go through this step, which in turn will help you find the person you are looking for in your life. Praise the qualities you love the most about her.
#4: Are You the Ideal Man?
How do you describe your ideal woman? Do you compliment her? Do you complement each other? Or would they think, “Wow, she’s so wonderful, but she could do so much better?” This is the catch: To attract the people you want to be, you must first be that person. And this necessitates having all the positive attributes you listed and lacking the deal-breakers. So be truthful about this. It might be beneficial to create a list of the “must-have” traits you lack but should nurture and the “deal-breaker” ones you possess but should eliminate.
#5: Be Yourself
You should now have a clear picture of both your ideal relationship and woman, in addition to the traits you need to work on or get rid of. Depending on what you’ve written down, you might decide to step up your game or lower your expectations. That’s perfectly ok. The most important thing is to just go out and start talking to women. Learn the art of seduction. Most of the women you’ll meet won’t be good enough for you. But some will, and it will all be worth it because of the time you’ve invested in laying down the groundwork.